I suspect that your issue is not directly related to the mapping of the express lanes. I think the problem is simply that there are many routes from south Arlington to Ashburn that differ by less than 5 miles that waze can choose from, but waze only gives the 3 alternate routes. If waze's data doesn't match your experience, your route may be left off the list of options.
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